J and I are being married in April this year. We have decided to go for a simple and quiet country ceremony and afternoon tea reception, with all intentions to minimise stress and un-neccesary fretting over small details. In spite of this, it seems that my every waking moment is occupied by procedures for cutting bits and gluing pieces, by feathers and leaves and petals for confetti. Earlier this month, I decided to write out all the things I had on my mind, resulting in a list that was much larger than I realised:
keep in mind, this is only a small part of the wedding planning effort. My mum has taken on the big guns: hiring tables and chairs and napkins and speakers, organising the marquee and putting deposits on things. J is getting a little tired now of my constant drawing and snipping and gluing, and the many tabs I keep of internet inspiration. It’s not that I want everything to be perfect; when the day comes I will be more than happy for a few things to go wrong here and there, because after all, the time spent with family and friends and (most importantly) J is so much more important and life-giving. It’s more that I want the day to speak of who I am and the way I’d like married life to be; I know things will be busy, but I want to make the time for quiet stitching, drawing, writing, alongside J who is my constant companion and greatest friend.
It makes sense to me that this model is written about in proverbs 31:
Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character
10 [b]A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
How I love these words.